Look.  In life, stuff happens.  In relationships, stuff definitely happens.  Sometimes we do things wrong.  Sometimes our mates do things wrong.  But here’s where a big problem comes in, and that’s when, sometimes, we can’t let go of what we or our mate has done wrong.  You can get more Relationship Advice here.

We can get stuck thinking about what they did wrong to us, how they shouldn’t have done it, etc.  If we keep thinking about it and getting mad about it, we create even more relationship damage.

Thus, forgiveness.  It is necessary to keep relationships from spiraling out of love. 

But how can you forgive when what happened is so upsetting and keeps replaying in your mind?  How can you let it go when it won’t let you go?

One way to forgive is to practice not taking what they did so personally.  This will help you to let go of it more readily.  You can get more How To Get Relationship Advice specifics here.

Look.  When your mate is rude or thoughtless, if often isn’t about you.  It is just a sign that they are stressed or under pressure.  Like all of us, they are doing the best they can in the moment.

If you can not take it so personally, that creates room for forgiveness.  “Oh, they just had a bad moment.”  “They just had a bad day.”  This helps you to let it go, and that is what forgiveness does, helps you to let go of past transgressions.

You don’t have to forgive.  But have you noticed that if you don’t forgive, you are the one who is hurt?  You are the one who is filled with anger and irritation?  Learning to let go and forgive helps you, which helps your relationship.  Get more How To Get Help For Love Skills here.