If you have recently gone through a break up but now have a strong desire to recommit to the relationship, you may be wondering how you can get back together with your ex. It isn’t unusual to want things to work out immediately, but you are much better off stepping back for a minute and thinking through a solid action plan.

It is quite natural to find yourself on an emotional roller coaster and not know exactly what to do. First of all, what you should not do is make numerous phone calls to your ex begging and pleading for his/her return. This ulimately errodes the situataion further and makes it more difficult to get your ex back. No one wants to feel like someone is suffocating them. Right now the best thing you can possibly do is exactly the thing you least likely feel like doing. Do you have an urge to make contact with your ex? Don’t do it! Do you feel like curling up and crying all day? Don’t do it! Recommitting to an old relationship is a big decision that should not be handled lightly. These three tips will give you help in determining if you can get back together with your ex and recommit with a renewed passion. (Further information can be found on “How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back” here.)

1. Accept the Facts. Once a breakup has taken place, stress and tension between the couple is not at all uncommon. Both of you have to have a little room and separation to be able get on down the road a little ways. It is extremely imperative to acknowledge that the breakup has occurred and you are able to deal with it appropriately. While you most likely are not feeling this way inside, this brings relief to the other individual and helps provide him with a new angle to view the past relationship. It will also give you time to consider your options. If “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” then perhaps both of you will realize how much you love and miss each other.
2. Stop All Communication. Making contact with your ex destroys the “thinking time” you both desperately need. By stopping the communication with your ex, you essentially show him that things are ok with you. Spending time away from each other could actually increase the odds of getting your ex back when he actually has a few moments to reflect on the value of the relationship that the two of you had together. Time apart is one of the greatest ways to come to an understanding of how much the other person means to you.
3. Make Plans to Get Back Together. There will come a time when it becomes important to plan a meeting time and place for further discussion. After a time of separation, if both of you agree that the relationship is worth pursuing, you will need to find out if love wins out and the two of you will be able to get back together. A long term relationship involves wholehearted commitment from both parties.

Do you want to make the first move to get your ex back? Work through these 3 suggestions to start the process of making up.