In any relationship, insecurity is bound to play a part and at times men find themselves with an insecure girlfriend who needs nurturing and reassuring.  However, the key part of helping an insecure partner lies in the answer to this question: why is she insecure?

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You need to ask this question because there can be many reasons for insecurity: jealousy is a very common factor and low self esteem another.  In understanding the cause of the insecurity felt by our girlfriend we can start addressing how to resolve them.

Jealousy

Many men, when out with their partners, will cast a glance at another woman for this is simply a natural response. We cannot go around with eyes closed all the time and we notice what goes on, but it is essential that your insecure girlfriend understands no matter how much you look around, it is her that you have in your heart.

Insecurity can go both ways, if she was casting her eyes or flirting with the opposite sex it would also make you feel uncomfortable in your relationship.  An additional problem with insecurity is that women may start to think you are having an affair just because of a few late nights at the office or a few business trips have taken you away.

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If you girlfriend has become insecure enough to think you are having an affair, then how do you start convincing them otherwise?  You should always give your partner no reason to think you are not being faithful.  The old romantic tricks work, but don’t overdo them, and the reassurance and loving touches add to the picture and reduce the risk of jealousy.

Self Esteem

Opening up with your girlfriend and being honest about how you feel – telling her you love her, you care about her, how great she looks, telling her about your day and listening to hers is a great way to build security and self esteem.  If you are stressed at work and come home, say nothing, and let it build up she is bound to feel insecure: is she the problem, she thinks?  So share your day with her – communicate with her but not to her.

It is easy for a relationship to become unstable and breakdown due to insecurity in general or an insecure partner, she may no longer feel as good as she once did due to aging and lack of communication.

You need to assure her that she is the one for you, that it is her you love, want to be with, and want to remain with.  Be straight with her, show her how much you love her and care about her.  Give yourself and your girlfriend the best chance of a successful relationship in an imperfect world; make her feel good about herself.

This is a great place to start if you want to improve the relationship between you and your girlfriend – The Magic of Making Up Review