In a perfect world, the couple would live happily ever after when they say “I do”. Unfortunately, a perfect world we do not live in. And most times, following the wedding day, that is when trouble begins.

Whatever the cause, a couple can go from a blissful relationship, to a relationship that is cold and bitter.

In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.

Disagreements, arguments, and fights happen.In most marriages it is very likely to happen.But if it persists, there is a time to decide for the couple on whether this is normal or part of everyday life.  Or if is too much and time to seek help.

Because if you leave a problem within the marriage unchecked, this could be the beginning of a horrible divorce.

So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling San Diego is needed.

The first sign is there constant bickering?  Do little things cause you guys to argue? Although seemingly insignificant, this could be the start of something that turns bigger.

Second, do you guys find it hard to say anything nice about each other? This shows you that you two are holding contempt for each other and that is not beneficial.

A third issue to look at is do you find the level of respect between the two of you is gone?In every relationship, the couple must respect each other.

Fourth sign, do you find a loss of intimacy with each other?This isn’t just talking about sex, although sex is a part of it.Does is seem like the two of you aren’t as close as you once were?

Fifth, do you find you are happier when you and your spouse are apart?  This is  not a good sign and is the beginning of the separation.

Sixth thing to look at have you lost trust of one another? One of the most important things for a married couple is trust.When you are living and sharing your intimate moments you have to have trust.

Finallly, has one of you been unfaithful?  This seems simple and obvious.Sometimes when this does occur, unfortunately some couples choose to ignore it rather than try to deal with the issues.

Of course there are plenty of other signs.  But these are some big ones when deciding if it is time to seek a marriage counselor in San Diego.

If these are some of the things you are experiencing, and to find a way to save your marriage is your goal.  You need to seek professional help to try and work out these problems.

A lot of times, a third viewpoint is very helpful for the situation, and this is why a family counselor can help.