Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist, writes… Contrary to widely held love advice that’s out there on the internet, asking your potential mate a series of interview questions is one way for certain to turn her off and have her looking for the door.

Seriously, imagine someone meeting you for the first (or tenth) time, if they asked you questions that you’d expect to hear on a job interview. Would that put YOU at ease? I don’t think so. The relationship advice you get from a woman’s point of view, may not work from a man’s perspective. From a man’s point of view, a real woman is a woman who can communicate about what she wants and how she feels.

It’s more commonplace these days for a real woman to open her heart and communicate openly from her heart. Open communication is a valuable trait and a turn on for most men.

Whether you’re looking for casual dating or someone to spend the rest of your life with, you must start from square one. For the best tips and Relationship Advice for Men the first place to start is to know what you want.

1. Knowing What You Want

What qualities in your date or mate are you looking for? Get clear about what those traits are and you’ll have an easier time knowing when you meet her. Is he funny, does he think you’re funny? Is it important to you that he likes sports? Is she interesting, well-travelled? What about sports, hobbies, politics, or food?

When you know what you want you can start sampling from what you encounter in the world or in the relationships of your friends. What do you admire about the friends who have successful relationships? Are there elements that turn you off in other peoples’ relationships? When you’re straightforward and clear about what you want, trust me, you’ll be much more able to know when he’s] the right one.

2. Be Flexible

When you’re flexible about how, when or who shows up, you’d be surprised on how much easier it is to attract the right one. I’m not suggesting that you compromise or settle for less. I’m suggesting that you remain in the inquiry of ‘what if she’s even better than I can imagine?’ It’s possible to get even more than you asked for. That’s what happened for me. I got clear about what I wanted and I stopped listening to everyone else about how hard it was to meet eligible partners.

3. “BE” the Person You’d Like to Meet

That’s right. You got clear on the qualities and values you want in your lover. Now the question is, “are you anything like the person you’d like to meet”? I hope so. If not, you know what you have to do. Start shifting your values and qualities. Then you’ll be a much greater match for your sweetie.

4. Let Go of the HOW

When you let go of the “way it’s supposed to happen” you allow the universe to works its magic. Though that may sound Woo-Woo, the truth is when you have a firm opinion about “HOW it supposed to be,” you limit yourself. You’re also in a resistant mode, which hinders your magnetic attraction.

When you’re in the seeking mode, it’s much easier to find them when you know what you want. So get clear, go with the flow and be the kind of person you want to meet.