Do you know someone who is trying to cope with the loss of a boyfriend or are you the one who has had to deal with such a loss? Well this is probably the hardest situation to be faced with. In such a case you probably need to hear encouragement words from someone who cares.

Most people do not realise the phases that a grieving person goes through. Let me share some of those feelings – By reading these I hope you will be more aware and will be able to know how to handle each phase.

Disbelief

The initial feeling that comes when you hear the sad news is that of disbelief. It is even harder when you have just had a conversation or just seen your boyfriend. This feeling may take a while to subside. In most occasions it lasts up to the day of the funeral.

Shock

In most cases shock is triggered by seeing the person actually dead. In most cases this happens at the funeral after reality strikes. Being shocked is an inevitable feeling after reality strikes. In most instances this feeling does not last long.

Anger

This feeling can be directed at any one and everyone including yourself and the people who were meant to “protect” your boyfriend. Anger is destructive especially if not properly managed. It is important to be careful about what you say and think during this time. Look into the internet for some daily words of encouragement to help you deal with this destructive feeling.

Pain

Here is one feeling that never seems to go away. It calls for some consistent exposure to words of encouragement. Pain is deadly. I mean it just sticks in there and does not seem to ever end. Although it may take longer but eventually it dies. You may not forget but the pain does go away eventually.

When you are in pain you may feel helpless and even regret some doing or not doing something. What ever feeling you have, time does heal – believe me, I know.